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May 11, 2008

Dreams of a Mother

Happy Mother's Day to all my readers (and their mothers)!

I'm excited, because this afternoon we're going to go on our annual Mother's Day visit to L.A.'s Farmer's Market, where we will shop, watch the pretty people, and enjoy French food and wine at Monsieur Marcel's lovely little outdoor cafe. And I get to be a surrogate mom to my beautiful 20-year-old niece, who isn't able to spend the day with my sister up in Sacramento.

Dreamsofamotherbuttoncopy For those of you who came here looking for something interesting to read, I'm going to have to direct you over to the MOMocrats, where we are celebrating the day with a special meme: Dreams of a Mother:

Each of the MOMocrats is writing about our own dreams as mothers and we encourage all of you to join us over the next week.  In true MOMocrats style, each MOMocrat will be sharing a political or social issue close to her heart.  We'd love it if you did too, but your own special non-political dreams are important as well.  We want the world to hear them.

I'd like to encourage you to blog about your own dreams for the world and your children and then leave a comment with your link on this post. I can't wait to read what you all have to say!

(And after you visit MOMocrats, you can read my latest post over at 50-Something Moms Blog.)

April 23, 2008

SoCal Mom Goes to Washington

I'm brimming with blog post ideas. Normally, this would be a good thing, as I'm now writing and/or contributing to something like five different blogs. But the website design project reared its ugly head again this week.

I'm not saying that the website is ugly, but the photos I had to work with were, and the client had the whole thing re-shot -- which means I'm doing the update all over again.

It's actually a lot easier this time around, because the new photos are gorgeous and I'm not wasting a lot of time messing with them (as I had to do the first time around). I'm hopeful that I can get the site back up and running by the end of the day tomorrow, and the really good news is that when it's all done, I will have earned a lot more money from the project than I'd expected.

But the bad news is that I'm behind on my blogging. Once again, I will be kind of absent here until the website project is finished.

In the meantime, I am this week's "Mother of Intention" over at PunditMom's political blog. I know -- In nearly five years of writing SoCal Mom, I've rarely indicated that I had any opinions about anything other than how absurd it is to live in the land of swimming pools and movie stars. So how come the sudden interest in politics? Well, it's always been there - but I was afraid to raise my voice; afraid that I would sound stupid or that revealing that side of my personality would alienate the people who come here to read cute stories about kids and school and Hollywood gossip.

The fear of coming across as dumb and uninformed almost paralyzed me when I wrote my first guest post on the MOMocrats and then a second one (after responding to tweets from Stefania looking for posts about health care - a subject I could talk about for an hour or two). And so when MOMocrats co-founder Glennia Campbell invited me to be a permanent member of the group, I thought she was kidding. I ignored her until she asked me a second time! (Honestly, Glennia, I wasn't playing hard to get, because once I understood you were serious, you found out that I'm really kind of easy.)

But once I started receiving the group's emails, I realized I'd really jumped out of the frying pan and into the political fire. I knew these women were SMART. I knew they were PASSONATE. I knew they were amazingly ENERGETIC. It's taken me some time to participate freely in their discussions because I feel like such a lightweight next to Stefania, Glennia, Joanne, Alysin, BethBitsy, Christine, Cyn, Debbie, Erin, Jaelithe, Jen, Jenn, Joan Garry, Julie, Kady, Kristen, Liz, Melissa, Sarah, Sheila and Stephanie .

So last week, when Joanne asked me (ME!) if I would be a guest on PunditMom, I had kind of the same reaction that I did when Glennia invited me to join MOMocrats. She had to be kidding, right?

Only this time, I didn't play hard to get. I immediately responded that I would be honored.

And I am.

March 29, 2008

Conventional Wisdom

Conventionctr_2The drive up to San Jose was amazingly easy. We left just 30 minutes later than we’d hoped and made good time, thanks to light traffic and clear skies. We hit Silicon Valley around 11:30, dropped in on our family friends (who are graciously allowing us to use their home as our base), and got to the Convention Center in time to grab some lunch with two MOMocrats extraordinaire: CityMama Stephania Pomponi Butler and Sheila Bernus Dowd (Xiaolin Mama).

Usag One big surprise for my daughter was the news that USA Gymnastics is hosting an international meet here in San Jose, concurrent with the state Democratic convention. In fact, we followed half the likely women’s Olympic team as we looked for a café to eat (and discovered where they are staying).

Megan jumped out of her seat at the sight of Nastia Liukin and Shawn Johnson (her favorites!) and ran out to snap their photo… but was too late.

She spent the rest of the lunch nagging me about getting tickets to see the meet (which is not the reason we came here). I finally relented (somewhat) by telling her that if she finished her project early rather than later – and the tickets don’t cost too much – maybe we would take some time out to go. (Guess you can tell that the material she dreamed didn’t pan out so well.)

We later discovered that the San Jose Convention Center is the site to see the women's and men's rhythmic gymnastics and trampoline events... but the artistic gymnastic team events are over at San Jose State (not far, but not in the same building).

Coming to an event like this one with your family is not the same as when you are alone. I was very much more of a MOM than a blogging Democrat. I knew that would be the case when I decided to bring my daughter. I spent much of the afternoon helping her with her project (which still isn't done, despite those wild dreams of hers).

When she wasn't writing about te life of Cleopatra, Megan was collecting campaign buttons and autographs of Super Delegates (this will be the subject of a post on the MOMocrats, but as it's past midnight now, I'm afraid I don't have the brainpower to do it justice). I left the convention feeling frustrated with technology:

For one thing, the press room in the Convention Center has no wi-fi. Delegates and media can, however, log on from the meeting rooms and ballrooms on the second floor.

Except  for me.

The internet connection in the Exhibit Hall (where Nancy Pelosi gave a rousing speech) didn't like my computer -- or maybe that was the other way around. I would get on and then lose it, only to receive an error message that indicated that the signal was too low, or I was too far away from the router. Stefania and Glennia (one of the other rockin' founding MOMocrats) were live blogging away on their Mac books. I felt like John Hodgman in one of those Apple commercials; stymied by the inadequacies of the Windows system while the Mac users were sailing high.

After such an early start, I was feeling tired. I begged off a planned MOMocrats dinner at Sheila's house, thinking Megan and I could grab a quick bite and return home to my friends' house (where I might be able to steal a little Internet access for the first time all day). This was a HUGE miscalculation, because the quick bite did not happen.

The plan was thwarted, first by the crowd of delegates waiting to dine at the hotel restaurants, then by a parking fee machine that refused to accept my credit card... and finally, by the GPS unit I'd brought with me for this trip, which suddenly stopped giving me directions.

I ended up horribly out of my way - somewhere past the 880 and nowhere near the 101, which is the route I needed to take to get back home. Eventually, we found a shopping center where I felt safe to park, and Megan (of course) showed me how to get the GPS unit talking to me again.

She ended up with a nutritious (ha!) Happy Meal for dinner. I ate two diet protein bars on the drive home.

The one good thing to come out of my technical and social incompetence is that we got back to our friends' house in time to actually socialize with them a little (instead of just using their place as our hotel). I had a little wine... and ended up talking to their youngest son for about 90 minutes, all about the wonders of blogging and social networking.

And so here I am... past midnight... bleary-eyed... ready to go to bed. And still without a convention related post appropriate for the MOMocrats.

There's always tomorrow. And while I couldn't get a table at the restaurant in the Marriott, it looked like they have good, working wi-fi in the lobby.

March 28, 2008

Do You Know the Way to San Jose?

By the time this post publishes, I should be on my way to the San Jose Convention Center, to attend our state's Democratic convention.

The party offered press credentials to the amazing, prolific, sharpshooting MOMocrats, so we get to take our seats in the hall with the "big boys" (you know, the political bloggers -- and I know those guys will be really happy to see us. Especially when they find out that we were invited to also bring our kids).

That's why I am taking Megan along with me. Aside from the fact that it solves the issue of who will drive her to and from school, I figure she can be my photographer. Her teachers aren't even all that upset about this (in fact, I think one of them is a little jealous). This year's Presidential election is so historic... I want her to have some memories she can bore share with her own children (as I do to her with tales of seeing Bobby Kennedy campaign in LA in '68).

So yesterday afternoon, I rented a car (can't put the extra miles on the leased Volvo), did laundry, packed and bought road snacks... and if Mapquest's estimate is correct (and we left on time and don't make a lot of stops), I should get to San Jose by noon.

If you want to see what we're seeing live, the party will be broadcasting the convention proceedings on their website, here. The agenda includes will include speeches by former President Bill Clinton, U.S. House Speaker Nancy Pelosi, and a dinner presentation from Phil Donahue (who I remember running into, back in my days working at NBC).

Look for my posts here and here.

March 20, 2008

A Plea to Give Peace a Chance

Img_2018Last night, I attended my first peace rally. This might sound weird to those of you who already know that I am a child of the 1960's. But I was too young to have been an activist, and my parents did not exactly admire all those SDS types who were burning flags and draft cards and staging sit-ins at the Dean's office.

By the time I enrolled at Cal State Northridge, "student unrest" was a thing of the past, as was the strategy of sending our troops to war without provocation. At least, until March 19, 2003. That's when our present Administration dreamed up a scheme to go into Iraq. That action has turned a lot of people into peace activists - even those who had never before dreamed of protesting the government...

...And even people who live in the northwest San Fernando Valley. I know that Los Angeles is one of the nation's bluest cities in its bluest state, but I would characterize my neighborhood as magenta on the Crayola color scale: a little bit more red than blue. We're just a 15-minute drive on the 118 from the Reagan Library, and this part of the Valley is still home to ranchers and horse people as well as upscale suburbanites.

That might be why the woman who hosted last night's peace rally for MoveOn.org talked about how isolated she sometimes feels living up here, and why she expressed surprise that so many people had indicated that they would be joining the vigil.

Although I've been on MoveOn's email list for years, my family's crazy schedule has kept me from committing to any of their events. This one was a little bit touch and go at the last minute, until I made the executive decision of cutting short my daughter's gymnastics training, so she could attend the vigil with me. (The kid only agreed to this because I told her it was possible that a news crew could be there. Alas, she must still wait for her 15 seconds of fame.)

We got there as about six people had gathered at the corner of Tampa and Plummer, adjacent to Northridge mall (the closest thing we have here to a community center). Susan read us the ground rules: we were to stay on the public sidewalk with our candles and signs. The vigil would begin at 7:00 and end by 8:00.

By the end of the hour, our group had grown to about 70 people who are all as sick and tired of this Administration's pointless war as we are. Many brought signs that had obviously been used at previous rallies. Some included endorsements for the candidacy of Barack Obama (I don't recall seeing any signs there supporting Hillary Clinton, but given her vote and statements on the war, that's probably appropriate).

Peace_3 I'm so inexperienced at this that I didn't know how to set up the candles with the cups, and even brought the wrong kind (plastic ones I stole from the snack bar at the gym). When the candles I brought weren't going out, they were dripping hot wax all over my hands.

Fortunately, many of the other demonstrators were old hands at this, even sharing stories of dodging cops with billy clubs, back in "the day." I was struck by how multi-generational the gathering was: older people, younger people, and even a few other parents who brought their kids to learn first-hand about one of our nation's greatest privileges: our First Amendment right to freedom of assembly, freedom of speech, and the knowledge that we can criticize our government without repercussion.

From the moment the vigil began, we were greeted with a cacophony of support via honking horn (including those of several Metro buses that passed us by). It scared my daughter at first, but she adjusted. Then, she was shocked at the sight of a grandmotherly type in a Cadillac, expressing her own First Amendment rights by flipping us off. I was a little surprised that it was about the only negative reaction we saw, but Megan was outraged.

"But she had kids in the car!" she said.

By 8:00, we were hungry and tired from a long day, and so we were among the first of the group to leave. We could still hear the honking of the horns as we trudged through the parking lot on our way to the mall's food court. An older woman approached us as we passed the Circuit City.

"What is going on there?" she asked in heavily accented English.

I explained that it was a vigil protesting five years of war in Iraq.

The woman gazed at my daughter, who was still holding her sign and then looked back at me.

"You are a very good mother," she said.

Cross-posted at MOMocrats.

February 28, 2008

Just Call Me Hussein

I wish I was as funny and fierce as Stefania Pomponi Butler, who is one of the forces behind the MOMocrats.

Like anyone with a brain, she's outraged by all the brouhaha certain so-called pundits have been making over Barack Obama's middle name. So she came up with this great idea: Just Call Me Hussein Day.

Here's what Stefania says:

We here at MOMocrats have decided to make today an impromptu "Just Call Me Hussein" Day in response to people like Bill Cunningham... who is obviously still seven-years-old.

Read more here (including my own contribution).

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