In honor of Freedom to Marry Week, Robin of The Other Mother is holding her second annual "Freedom to Marry" carnival, and I told her I would participate.
It's a cool idea: Each day, we're to blog on a piece of the old wedding day guidelines (something old, something blue... etc.) Today's topic is "Something Old."
Too bad I'm not in the mood.
You see, my husband and I had some harsh words for one another last night. That's not unusual for a couple that's been together 20 years (on March 28)... and we usually get over it by morning. But this morning, he left the house without saying goodbye to me, so I think he's still pretty PO'd at me. And that throws me off my game.
So I suppose my Something Old today is US. (Although he would say it's ME, as he never gets tired of teasing me about being 5.5 years older than he. And yes, that .5 is important, because for half the year, he insists that I'm SIX years older.)
When you are together as long as we have been, you get a sixth sense about each other... and even when you are getting on each other's nerves, you feel it acutely when something is amiss. And lately, the opportunities to annoy one another have multiplied.
I blame the economy. Like everyone else, we've seen our assets plummet in value. We're both working harder to bring in less income. We're worried about the future. We're both under a lot of pressure (him more than me, but that doesn't mean I'm not feeling stressed, too -- which is kind of what our stupid fight was about last night).
But here's the thing: If you take away the fear and the pressure and the stress, what's left is all good. We have built a happy life here. We have a daughter who is as beautiful as she is sweet. We have terrific friends and a roof over our heads, and -- a lot of love.
Most important, we have each other. As long as we do, I think we're going to be OK.
Have you heard that Ken Starr -- and the Prop 8 Legal Defense Fund -- filed legal briefs defending the constitutionality of Prop 8 and attempting to forcibly divorce 18,000 same-sex couples that were married in California last year? The Supreme Court will hear oral arguments in this case on March 5, 2009, with a decision expected within the next 90 days.
The Courage Campaign has created a video called "Fidelity," with the permission of musician Regina Spektor, that puts a face to those 18,000 couples and all loving, committed couples seeking full equality under the law.
Please watch this heartbreaking video now. If you have the same reaction that I did, you can help spread the word by sharing it with your friends ASAP -- before the Valentine's Day deadline:
http://www.couragecampaign
The more people who see this video, the more people will understand the pain caused by Prop 8 and Ken Starr's shameful legal proceeding.
After you watch the video, please join me and over 60,000 people who have signed a letter to the state Supreme Court, asking them to invalidate Prop 8 and reject Starr's case.
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